Finding the Right Fit: How To Choose a Nursing Home For a Loved One

Choosing a nursing home for someone you love is one of the most important decisions you may ever make. It’s a deeply personal process – often made during times of stress, worry, or urgent need. Whether you’re planning ahead or facing a sudden change in circumstances, knowing what to look for in a nursing home can help ease anxiety and guide you to the right choice.

At Lidder Care, we understand how emotional this journey can be. That’s why we’ve created this guide—to help you feel confident, informed, and supported every step of the way.

What Matters Most When Choosing a Nursing Home?

Every family is unique, and so is every nursing home. But at the heart of your decision should be one central goal: ensuring your loved one receives the care, comfort, and dignity they deserve. Here’s how to start:

1. Understand Your Loved One’s Needs

Before visiting homes, take time to list out what your loved one truly needs. This will help you match them with a home that offers the right level of care.

Consider:

• Physical care needs (e.g., help with washing, dressing, mobility)
• Medical needs (e.g., dementia care, diabetes monitoring, medication support)
• Emotional and social well-being
• Language, culture or spiritual preferences
• Dietary requirements
• Level of independence

The Key Factors To Consider When Visiting Nursing Homes

Once you understand your loved one’s needs, start visiting local homes like Lowmoor Nursing home, here in Kirkby-in-Ashfield. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and take notes. You’re looking for more than just a room – you’re looking for a new community, a support system, and a second home.

Here’s a helpful checklist to guide your visits:

Atmosphere and Environment

• Does the home feel warm and welcoming?
• Is it clean, bright, and well-maintained?
• Are residents engaged and interacting happily?
• Is there outdoor space available?

Staff and Care Quality

• Are staff friendly, patient and respectful?
• Is the staff-to-resident ratio adequate?
• Do they take time to talk with residents?
• What training and qualifications do the carers have?

Care and Medical Support

• How are individual care plans developed?
• Is there a nurse available 24/7?
• How are medical emergencies handled?
• Can they cater to dementia or complex needs?

Daily Life and Activities

• What kind of activities and outings are offered?
• Are meals home-cooked and can dietary needs be met?
• Are there opportunities for social interaction and hobbies via coordinated activities?

Family Involvement

• Are families kept informed and involved?
• Can you visit anytime?
• Can residents personalise their rooms?

Costs and Contracts

• What are the weekly fees, and what’s included?
• Are there additional charges (e.g., hairdressing, outings)?
• Is there a clear and fair contract?
• How are fees handled if care needs change?

Red Flags To Watch Out For

While most care homes are committed to high standards, here are a few signs that should raise concerns:

• Unpleasant odours or poor cleanliness
• Staff seeming rushed or disengaged
• Residents appearing withdrawn or inactive
• Lack of choice in daily routines or meals
• Poor communication with family members

Questions You Might Ask During a Visit

To help spark conversations with the care team, here are some thoughtful questions to ask:

• “How do you create individual care plans?”
• “What’s a typical day like here?”
• “Can my loved one bring their own furniture?”
• “How do you handle changes in care needs?”
• “What activities are available every week?”
• “What’s your staff turnover like?”

Involving Your Loved One in the Decision

Where possible, include your loved one in the process. Even small decisions like choosing a room or attending a trial lunch, can help them feel more in control and positive about the change.

Encourage them to:

• Visit with you
• Meet other residents
• Share their feelings and concerns
• Talk with staff and activity coordinators

Take Your Time, Trust Your Gut

Choosing a nursing home is a decision made with both heart and head. It’s okay to take your time, revisit a few homes, and ask for advice. And it’s absolutely okay to ask for a trial stay or short-term respite to help your loved one ease in gently.

We’re Here to Help

At Lidder Care, we believe that everyone deserves a place where they feel safe, respected and truly cared for. Our homes are built on empathy, professionalism, and personal attention. Whether you’re just starting your search or are ready to visit, we’re always here for a chat, a tour, or to simply answer your questions. Contact our friendly team today

Let us help you find a place your loved one can truly call home.